Let’s Talk About Therapy, Let’s Talk About You and Me

Let’s talk about therapy, let’s talk about you and me. Let’s talk about all the good things, and the bad things that we may be…or however it goes. Honestly, I just envisioned that scene in Pitch Perfect and threw in the words therapy, and I’m feeling pretty excited about the topic. But on a serious note, therapy is still something that some people are afraid to talk about. So this month the Girl Gang opens up about their experience with therapy and how they have benefited from it. Funny enough, all of us see the same therapist. Sarah and I didn’t realize that we saw the same therapist at first, but pieced it together pretty quickly. About a year ago, Brandi asked me for a recommendation on her therapist. Sarah has had quite a few therapists over the years, and she talks about how it’s a good idea to find one that really fits with your personality. I open up about my struggles in my marriage and how I have worked through that grief of my divorce, learning to date again, and learning how to determine boundaries. Brandi came into therapy with a specific purpose, and was able to benefit from seeing someone right away. She’s the most healed of us all :) 

A big topic we discuss in this episode is this idea of relationships being like a pair of shoes. You may really love this pair of shoes. You want them to fit, but something is just off. Maybe they are slightly uncomfortable, maybe you have outgrown the shoes. There is nothing wrong with you or the pair of shoes. But it’s okay to put the shoes back on the shelf and move onto the next pair. Relationships are like shoes, and that has helped us know when to move on, even when there is still love there. 

There is a spark, a glow, that lives in each of us. I’m not sure about you, but when I was separated from my ex, people instantly saw a difference in me. They actively mentioned it often. Brandi talks about this too when her sister told her that she seemed different after her breakup, in a better way. When others can see you come back to your old self, you know that you did the right thing. It’s going to be fucking hard. You are going to hurt people along the way. But as Glennon Doyle states it best, “What is better: uncomfortable truth or comfortable lies? Every truth is a kindness, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Every untruth is an unkindness, even if it makes others comfortable.”

And if you aren’t ready for therapy, that’s okay too. It took a long time for all of us to get to that stage. But whether you talk to a professional, reach out to one of us, or write it down, know that you know yourself better than anyone. Trust yourself. Trust that you know what’s best. Because if your body is revolting, if you know something is wrong, then only telling the truth will set you free.

Happy Holidays and stay safe…. see you in the New Year!

So until next time - stay bold, stay empowered…

Rachael & the Girl Gang